We Need to Talk… What’s Your Issue?
James 4:1-2
Every family has its issues. These issues are passed down from generation to generation, shaping our perceptions, behaviors, and interactions with others. As a result, everyone experiences conflict in their relationships. This is not a reflection of failure but a natural part of human interaction. This week, we will discuss learning how to resolve conflict.
1. What stands out to you as you reflect on this week's sermon from Pastor James?
2. From your experiences, what would you say causes conflict?
3. Read James 4:1-2. How does this passage challenge our common perceptions of the causes of conflict in our relationships?
4. Pastor James said, “Conflict is fueled by what’s in you, not just who is with you.” What thoughts come to mind as you think about this?
5. James suggests that the root of conflict is often within us. How can we practice self-reflection to identify these internal battles before they affect our relationships?
6. In what ways do you find yourself blaming others during conflicts? How can you take responsibility for your part in the situation?
7. If you disagree with most people around you, ask yourself, “Who is the common denominator here?” Why is it so difficult to admit that it might not be the people around us who have issues; rather, it might be me?
8. Pastor James challenged us to address what’s within us rather than just reacting to others’ behaviors. How can this perspective change the way you approach conflict resolution?
Pastor James talked about how we can address our conflicts:
- Clarify the Cause
- What do I really desire?
- Why does this matter so much to me?
- How can we address this together?
- Acknowledge my part
- Let God take over
9. Read James 4:10. This verse discusses humbling ourselves before the Lord. How does humility play a role in resolving conflicts effectively?