Bad Vibes • Part 3

1. When it comes to conflict, are you more of a fighter, runner, or someone who bottles it up? Give some examples of how you typically respond in conflict with someone with the same wiring. What about how you interact with people with different wirings?

2. Why do you think some of our greatest regrets, scars, and baggage come from conflict that has not been handled well? If you feel comfortable, share an example of this from your own life? How has this impacted you?

3. Read James 4:1-2. What does this passage teach us about the underlying source of conflict in our lives? 

4. What are some common unmet desires you personally face that lead you into conflict with others? What does it look like to take this desire to God?

5. What are some helpful questions that help you understand the unmet desires or expectations that are leading someone else into conflict with you?

6. Read Philippians 2:3-4. What shift in perspective does God want us to make when it comes to our relationships with others?

7. Why is it so difficult to truly consider the other person’s desires as more important than your own when it comes to conflict?

8. When you begin to ask, “What can I do to help meet their need,” what actions might it lead you to take when you encounter Bad Vibes?

9. Read Philippians 2:5-11. In what ways is Jesus the greatest example of someone who put others’ interests above His own in the middle of conflict?

10. Can you think of an example from your life where you sacrificed your connection to someone because you fought to prove your point? What was the result?