Why Does God Care Who I Sleep With?

Sex is a sacred, God-given gift meant to be safe, anointed, fruitful, and enjoyable within marriage. Sex is sacred because it is holy and designed by God (Gen 2:24). It is anointed with the power to unite two people as one (Mark 10:8-9). It is also meant to be fruitful, multiplying love and fulfilling God’s command to “be fruitful and multiply” (Gen 1:28). Additionally, sex should be enjoyable as a blessing from God (Proverbs 5:18-19, Song of Solomon 5:1). The message also encouraged purity, not as mere virginity but as a life of integrity and repentance. Christians should guard what is sacred, approach sexual relationships with wisdom, and ensure that marital intimacy aligns with biblical principles: Is it prohibited? Is it beneficial for your spouse? Does it involve anyone else (Matt 5:28)?

Pastor James and his friends used the following acronym to guide their conversation: SAFE

Sacred: Sex is holy and good. Gen 2:24

Anointed: Sex has the power to unite. Mark 10:8-9.

Fruitful: Sex is meant to multiply love. Gen 1:28

When it comes to sex in married relationships, ask these three questions:

  1. Is it prohibited in scripture?
  2. Is it beneficial for your spouse? Emotionally connected.
  3. Does it involve anyone else? Matt. 5:?? Even if you look at someone lustfully, you have already committed…

Enjoyable: Sex is a Good Gift from God. Proverbs 5:18-19

Discussion Questions:

  1. Read Genesis 2:24. How does understanding sex as sacred change the way we approach relationships and intimacy?
  2. What does it mean to walk in purity, and how does repentance play a role in sexual integrity?
  3. Read Mark 10:8-9. Why do you think God designed sex to have the power to unite two people?
  4. Read Genesis 1:28. How does the concept of being “fruitful” apply not just to having children but to multiplying love in a marriage?
  5. What biblical principles should guide married couples in their intimacy? How do the three questions (prohibited, beneficial, involving others) help with discernment?
  6. How can Christians find healing and restoration from past sexual sin?
  7. What are some ways couples can ensure that sex remains a source of emotional and spiritual connection rather than division?
  8. Read Proverbs 5: 18-19. Why do you think God designed sex to be enjoyable? How does this challenge negative views of intimacy?
  9. Read Matthew 5:28. How does looking at someone lustfully impact our spiritual lives, and how can we guard our hearts?